in some circles, it’s called grace

There are two sides to personal change: enacting it upon oneself and allowing it to happen in another person.  People can and do change every day, and those transformations turn into habits most easily if the person has people who support and encourage the changes.  The most common example is someone who tries to add the daily discipline of exercise to their life.  The first week or so, a person might find themselves capable of transforming themselves into a fitness freak and become hyper health conscious.  Maintaining this, however, in the beginning, is extremely difficult without the support of someone who has already established an exercise routine as a habit.  If the person who has the discipline comes alongside the one who has the desire but perhaps not the fully strengthened will yet, it is much more likely that the newly transformed person will turn into an effective exercising individual and will be able to establish habits on his own eventually.

Without the support, most newly transformed people lose their way.  Doubters of the transformation are the worst enemies of anyone trying to make a change.  If we fix a person in our mind at a certain point in their existence and refuse to see them beyond that point, effectively freezing them in time, to our own eyes, no action that person commits could ever seem of a different motive or intent.  For example, in pre-transformation, a person might have treated someone wrongly through word or deed.  Post-transformation, the person is treating that someone differently, but if people refuse to see that he is doing so, to the Doubters, he will always be in “pre-transformation” state to them, no matter what he does.  This can destroy the newly-formed confidence of the person trying to make difficult changes, and it makes the person highly vulnerable to never completing his metamorphosis.  When a person commits to changing his mind and life, we have a duty to allow him to change as much as he has the responsibility to do the changing.

In other words, you’re doing it right, Brian.  I love you.

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~ by logosamorbos on May 28, 2011.

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